I like keeping things simple coffee, shop displays, my wardrobe, morning routine, it brings comfort and helps me navigate thoughts and emotions.
So when it comes to complex topics like consent, I'm straightforward, pretty literal. So I found simplifing the conversations that recently have become complex, helped me normalize the concept for better understanding.
Understanding consent promotes safe practices, which reduces sexual violence. Which is a a small step towards a better world.
I'm not a therapist, but from my experiences, friends experiences and insights, consent is a mutual agreement, respecting boundaries and acknowledging that consent is subject to change.
It's a human right to decide what happens to our bodies, and that consent can be communicated through speech, touch, or silence. Saying yes once doesn't bind you for life.
here are a few
Mindful initiatives for consent:
1. it's okay to change your mind.
2. The person seeking or initiating sex is responsible for getting consent.
3. Ask yourself if the other person is capable of giving consent. If they are on drugs or too drunk, asleep or unconscious they cannot choose. DO NOT BE AN ARSEHOLE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF A VULNERABLE PERSON.
4.You can confirm if you have consent by checking the other person's body language and by asking them. Don’t mistake silence for enthusiasm!
5.Check with them on each occasion you start any sexual conduct. Just cause they said yes once before Does Not mean they say yes always!
6. If they seem unhappy, or you are not sure they are consenting, STOP.
7. Silence, or the absence of a "no", does not guarantee somebody is consenting.
8. Supporting survivors? LISTEN & BELIEVE!!! But before you give them a comforting touch or hug, get consent. Touching can be a trigger for people who have experienced sexual assault.
9. Sometimes, those who've faced adversity might clam up or drift away if uneasy. It’s the freeze in fight, flight or freeze and it's more of an SOS.
Check in, make sure they're ok.
10. every response you have to a person either builds connection or breaks it. build trust with your other and yourself. Be comfortable and open with your likes and dislikes. it will bring you closer. :)
- If you or someone you know has experienced sexual violence, you can call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, chat online via https://www.1800respect.org.au or text 0458 737 732.
- Full Stop Australia: NSW Sexual Violence Helpline NSW Sexual Violence Helpline: a 24/7 telephone and online chat service for anyone affected by sexual violence. They can provide counselling, information and referral.